THE ROAD TO INNER PEACE STARTS WITH “THIS DOESN'T MATTER” by Ross Bannister Todd

LEARNING TO AVOID creating an UPSET is the road to inner peace, better health, a ready smile, more friends, and a happier life.

First example: You are sitting at a stop light that has turned green and the person ahead of you is on their cell phone and hasn't noticed. You get mad, honk, yell, or speed around them. All this negative emotions you just created may stay with you the rest of the day. Was it worth it? Did it accomplish anything productive? But if you had said 'it doesn't matter' a few times you can skip the drama, upset, stress and enjoy the rest of your day.

Second example: lets say you are in a checkout line at the market and the person ahead of you is holding up the line because she is putting her goods on the check stand very slowly, doesn't put a separator down and doesn't move up so you can have access to the check stand. The minute YOU DESIDE you don't want that to be going on you trigger ego resistance. The longer you stand there resisting what is going on in the present moment the more upset you are going to get.

By now you have lost your smile, your blood pressure is up, and anger is approaching rapidly. If you could step outside of yourself and notice that you are uncomfortable, unhappy, ill at ease, and not enjoying this moment of your life and you are probably blaming all your upset/drama on the other person/event. But you and your ego caused the upset not her. When you decided to agree with your ego and resist you triggered the upset/drama. Please notice also that all your upset is doing is making you miserable, unhealthy and has no productive result i.e. it didn't change anything.

YOU HAVE ESSENTIALLY ALLOWED YOUR EGO/MIND TO RUIN YOUR DAY AND THERE IS NO PRODUCTIVE RESULT. The payoff is drama that your ego/mind needs to exist and all this is at your great expense in health and attitude.

Lets start over and do it differently this time. When your ego/mind says inside your head “I hate this or I can't stand this” you respond [inside your head] with “IT DOESN'T MATTER” and you keep repeating that in your head until either the event is gone or your ego/mind shuts up and stops trying to trick you into resistance which creates very unhealthy drama. It may take you a while to get this technique to work but eventually it will only take a few “ I don't want to's” to stop your ego/mind from triggering resistance and drama.

LIFE JUST GOT A LOT EASIER, YOU WILL SMILE A LOT MORE, YOUR HEALTH WILL IMPROVE AND MANY AREAS OF YOUR LIFE WILL IMPROVE.

If you think resistance is your birthright: that means the ego has tricked you into identifying with resistance that means you are securely locked into it's ego prison of stress and unhappiness. Resistance is ego and has no positive result or payoff.

Equally important is the fact that when you are NOT UPSET you will readily see a solution or just chuckle at what your ego/mind was trying to get you upset about. If you avoid resistance/drama you will notice the obvious solution which is to offer to help her put her items on the check stand, put a separator down, and remind her to move up. Sure somethings are easier then others to let go of. As you practice this technique you will get stronger and your ego/mind will get weaker or less successful at tricking you into an upset. An upset is rarely productive, usually causes ill will, and is often very unhealthy, makes you unhappy and creates a lot of stress-that can make you sick.

This is the beginning of a positive approach to living your life. It is a minute by minute choice to avoid drama whenever possible. To approach life from a solution perspective rather then a problem perspective. The problem/drama perspective is the ego/mind approach to life and the solution approach is to live consciously in the present moment.

If there is something that needs to be changed [often there isn't] you will see the solution much more easily if you are not upset. Upset clouds our vision because often our feelings are from the past being overlaid onto the present moment. These are memories of feelings/emotions from similar events in our past that have bee triggered by our ego to help protect us but actually just distort our experience of what is really going on and then we assume a lot more is going on then is actually going on. When our feelings are distorted by memories of emotions from the past we often make incorrect decisions that we later regret. All this is because we are upset and not seeing clearly.

It doesn't matter is a way of staying in the present so we can consciously make our best choices about what to do, if anything, next. If we are in upset, in drama we usually make bad choices that we often regret.

LAW OF ATTRACTION*

What you focus your mind on you attract more of no matter what it is.

So if you are in drama a lot, you then attract more drama...

WHATS GOING ON HERE?*

This is the beginning of living consciously.

WHAT IS THE EGO?*

The 'voice' or thoughts in your head come from the ego. You, the real you is the one listening to the thoughts. You almost never talk 'out loud' to you inside your head, thats all the ego. We all have an ego mind but we are not our ego mind. But having an ego is not the problem, the problem is that we are identified with it so it becomes invisible and we give it our power because we assume it is who we are. Because we 'hear' it inside our head. This is the false assumption that causes most of our problems.

WHY DO WE DO THIS?*

Making someone else wrong makes you right and temporarily makes you feel like you are valuable and have some self-worth. Generally all negative thoughts, drama, upsets come from the ego. The ego is suggesting all these drama, upset and resistance opportunities and since we are identified with it we accept them all even when they make us feel bad, sick or cause pain, dis-ease, stress, etc.

* See www.ThinkPerfect.com and PRACTICAL ENLIGHTENMENT for more information on these subjects and more.

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