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February 2012

EGO VS CONSCIOUS SEX

EGO SEX VS CONSCIOUS SEX

Ego sex is sex that is driven/controlled by the ego.

EGO SEX

The ego creates illusions based on our past experiences with sexuality yy and things we associate with sex. yy Then it takes our desire for sex and rewires it so that we desire the illusions. yy The rewiring includes feeling satisfied when we re-experience sex overlaid with the illusion. yyy The illusion is reenforced by "memories of feelings" from our past, some of which may not be ACTUAL experiences. yyy Some of which may be traumatic memories from our past [these are not limited to this lifetime]. This is why for example: some people seek pain in a sexual relationship. yy Others may seek someone to play the disapproving/ approving father or mother in a sexual relationship, yy. Others may seek look a likes for brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, father, or mother who they probably had sexual relations with yy or fantasied sexual relations with. yyy From this you can see that most of our sexual desire is based on illusions created by the ego. yy After many years of desiring and experiencing these illusion they can become deep ADDICTIVE yyy ruts/habits in our mind. yy

CONSCIOUSNESS SEX

Our culture gives us no knowledge about conscious sex. yy

Even in our wildest dreams we do not have any idea about the hight's yy of intimate orgasmic sex. yyy Intimate orgasmic sex can be so satisfying and energizing, that there is no letdown afterward, not the need to do it again right away. yy The sexual energy we get from this kind of union is very healing. yy

The purpose of sex is to make a satisfying, intimate, spiritual connection yy with another being THROUGH OUR SEXUALITY yyy THAT IS MUTUALLY SATISFYING AND UPLIFTING. yyy This sexual experience may not include actual sex as we know it. yyy But its primary focus will be orgasmic with or without ejaculation. It is the SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE yyy that creates orgasm not the physical sex. yy As you might be able to see it would be difficult for someone addicted to ejaculation\ego sex to grasp these concepts. yy

In order to move past the habits/ruts of the ego we have to learn how to say NO NO to the ego which will return control of our body and mind to our TRUE SELF. YY

THE TRUE SELF

Each of us is born with a TRUE SELF [its in our DNA]. It has all the information needed to guide us to live a happy, healthy, abundant life; it also connects us to the universe and the Cosmic Helpers to help us take advantage of the generousness of the universe. Living from the TRUE SELF VS ego is a pleasure without' guilt, shame, judging, make wrong, etc. From the TRUE SELF you experience the beauty that is being alive on planet earth. The TRUE SELF is always there to guide is through the minute by minute decisions both big and small ...

??But the ego tricks us into agreement with the ego so it overpowers the TRUE SELF and rewrites the code in our mind so that the ego is in control' not the TRUE SELF. Getting back to our true self is not about learning something more it is about subtracting the ego interference, undoing the decisions that put the ego in control and saying no no to the ego illusions. In my experience The Oracle of The Cosmic way I Ching [by Anthony/Moog guided me through the process of letting go of my ego.

THE EGO

The ego is a parasite that is "downloaded" into the mind at birth. In my perspective it is a lot like a computer virus. It is not very active until the child has a traumatic experience or series of events that lead him to decide that he needs to protect himself. At which point the ego says I am your friend and I will protect you if you do as I say. Then it slowly takes over control by using fear, guilt, shame, etc. Since the ego is inside our head we assume it is US, or in other words we identify with it, which makes it almost invisible. Identifying with the ego gives it MUCH of our power, which puts it in control.

The ego then goes about displacing the TRUE SELF so that it is in control of our life. It rewires our brain to give it control instead of the TRUE SELF. Now it is free to create illusions that cause drama, upset, problems and stress. It guilts, shames, judges and manipulates us all under the guise of protecting us. But,in fact, it is only, always serving its own agenda which is to survive. In order to do that it must steal/take our chi or energy. It will gladly sacrifice our health, happiness, wealth, relationships and inner peace to serve its own ends. All the while telling it is our only friend.

As the " COURSE IN MIRACLES" says the egos plan for us is death. Thats what causes people to kill themselves, sickness, ill health from stress, guilt, shame or negative thinking that attracts what you don't want [using the law of attraction, negatively]. The ego causes most if not all of our problems. What we hold our mind or focus our mind on creates our life. When this focus is judging, guilt, shame, worry, self hate, resentment, hopelessness, belief in lack or "I can't have" we literally think ourselves in to sickness, disease and the illusion death.

THE LAW OF LARMA

The illusion of death is only the death of the body as the spirit is immortal and is simply recycled into. But it takes with it all the (positive and negative) karma from this life and that can have serious consequences in the next life. In fact birth defects are often a result of "bad" karma which is usually the misuse of power in a past lifetime. Karma is simply the energy you put out in your life time coming back to you perhaps 10 fold. example: you lie and cheat, then you will be lied to and cheated[, you steal, you **will be stolen from, you murder, you will probably get murdered'', etc.,etc,

Living life t the fullest

The way we are raised/trained does not usually give us a full understanding of what living life to the fullest is all about. We usually assume that it means getting people, places, and/or things to make us happy, satisfied, or feel loved. This often works for a while but usually doesnt last.

It doesn't last because we are pretending that something outside of us can change how we feel inside of us. We assume THE OUTER CONTROLS THE INNER the truth is THE INNER CREATES THE OUTER. I realize that may not make sense yet, but keep reading.

HOW YOU FEEL IS NOT controlled by people, places and things but our ego helps us pretend it is. That new phone isnt making you feel wonderful, its you saying to yourself "this is wonderful" vs when you are at work or school you are saying to yourself "I hate this". What you are saying/thinking dramatically effects how you feel then with the help of your ego you blame or attribute your discomfort on something outside of you. What you are not noticing is you [or your ego] decided you don't like what is going on so you resist it and decide: " I don't want to be here". These decisions are causing your discomfort or pain but you don't see that because you are blaming it on something outside of you.

We often blame/attribute how we feel on something outside of us even if the person or situation is not in front of us anymore we still blame it/them. How can they make you feel bad if they are not there? The answer is simple: its all coming from your memories/mind and the ego probablytriggered it. But YOU ARE STILL PRETENDING ITS REAL BUT ITS ALL AN ILLUSION CREATED BY YOUR EGO TO KEEP YOU IN AN UPSET SO IT CAN CONTROL YOU AND STEAL YOUR ENERGY.

Discovering you have an ego is a little like being told you have a tumour, you can't see it so you have no proof it is really there. So your NEXT STEP is to discover your ego. It is very clever at making itself almost invisible. You can't see how it is controlling your life untill you first acknowledge you have an ego. THE EGO IS WHAT IS KEEPING YOU FROM ENJOYING THE FULLNESS OF LIFE.

It has tricked you into beliving your (ego) thoughts/ voice in your head are you, so it seems invisible. In other words you are identified with your ego and believe it is you so you don't see it. Nor do you see that it is not the real you. THE REAL YOU IS THE ONE LISTENING TO THE EGO CHATTER AWAY INSIDE YOUR HEAD. Since the ego is inside our head we ASSUME it is us so we honor it, obey it and assume it protects us. since everyone else has this going on too it is strange that NOBODY IS TALKING ABOUT THE EGO. The ego will gladly sacrifice your happiness, health, job, money, relationship, even make you sick to survive and stay in control of your life.

YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS WILL FACILITATE YOU SEEING THE EGO IS NOT YOU BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE EFFORT, WILL IT.

The ego is very much like a computer VIRUS inside you. It needs to steal your energy to survive. To do this it needs to get you upset so it creates drama by creating illusions and triggering difficult, painful memories from your past. It gets away with this because most humans do not question where what they are feeling is coming from, i.e. the present or the past. If they can feel it they ASSUME it is real. Memories of feelings feel almost as real as currently being created feelings. This gives the ego free reign to trick us into believing traumas from our past are going on in the present again. This creates a false reality that is only going on inside you but we usually assume everyone else feels it too. We then base decisions and take action based on this false reality, frequently this causes irreparable damage to our relationships and our lives. In other words we blame someone for our pain and may try to get even but they are innocent, our pain is coming from a memory triggered by out ego. Often then they get angry and fight back because their ego triggers memories of feelings inside them and they step into their false reality and everything goes downhill from there. Then we spend weeks...years trying to figure out what happened but it never makes any sense, it can't because it was all an ego illusion. I will let you in a a little secret: the ego is insane. Yes, that is the same ego that is running and most likely ruining your life.

Come spend 90 minutes with me and I will show you your ego [and how your mind works] and how to differentiate you/the real you from the ego. This will give you the key to your ego prison. It can change your life or you can walk out the door, go back to your life and forget it all with your ego's help very quickly. The session is a conversation, I will not confront you nor ask you to share your deepest secrets but it is an interactive session not just a lecture so you will be able to test many of the things I say right there. You will be able to feel the truth in what I am showing you.

Remember fear does not come from outside of you, it is mostly triggered by your ego when IT THINKS/DECIDES something is dangerous and it is VERY OFTEN WRONG. It can also trigger fear whenever it wants to control you or stop you from doing something like give a speech, sex, meet someone new, or learn about the ego or have a session with me. The hardest part of a session is getting there, the rest is easy.

What's the goal?

WHAT'S THE GOAL?

What we don't see is LIVING FULLY IN THE PRESENT is the goal.
We don't usually see that the thoughts or chatter we have inside our head keep us from putting our full attention on the present moment.

Thoughts or mind chatter are mostly about the past, but can also be fear or resistance (usually disguised as "the I don't want too's"), judging, complaining, self pity, LACK, OR LIMITATION and thoughts often look like a conversation going on inside your head.

We don't see that our thoughts/mind is like an overlay on to the present moment.
We are having an experience of being in the present moment but thinking blocks that experience. Mental activity blocks our experience of the present moment...now.

To say it another way: we are focusing our attention on our mind/thinking rather then the peaceful, very alive and enjoyable experience of the present moment. What we are in our mind trying to figure how to get is often available in the present moment. You can't think joy, love or inner peace but you can experience it in the present moment. You can't get joy, love or satisfaction by thinking.

WE ALSO BELIEVE THAT JOY, LOVE, AND SATISFACTION COME FROM PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS BUT THIS IS SIMPLY NOT TRUE.

Joy, love and satisfaction can only be experienced when you are fully in the present moment, accepting/choosing everything and you are ok "as is right now" . But you can't be in the present moment if you are thinking, having a conversation in your head.

The problem is not what you are thinking, it is that you are thinking.

THE ROAD TO INNER PEACE STARTS WITH “THIS DOESN'T MATTER” by Ross Bannister Todd

LEARNING TO AVOID creating an UPSET is the road to inner peace, better health, a ready smile, more friends, and a happier life.

First example: You are sitting at a stop light that has turned green and the person ahead of you is on their cell phone and hasn't noticed. You get mad, honk, yell, or speed around them. All this negative emotions you just created may stay with you the rest of the day. Was it worth it? Did it accomplish anything productive? But if you had said 'it doesn't matter' a few times you can skip the drama, upset, stress and enjoy the rest of your day.

Second example: lets say you are in a checkout line at the market and the person ahead of you is holding up the line because she is putting her goods on the check stand very slowly, doesn't put a separator down and doesn't move up so you can have access to the check stand. The minute YOU DESIDE you don't want that to be going on you trigger ego resistance. The longer you stand there resisting what is going on in the present moment the more upset you are going to get.

By now you have lost your smile, your blood pressure is up, and anger is approaching rapidly. If you could step outside of yourself and notice that you are uncomfortable, unhappy, ill at ease, and not enjoying this moment of your life and you are probably blaming all your upset/drama on the other person/event. But you and your ego caused the upset not her. When you decided to agree with your ego and resist you triggered the upset/drama. Please notice also that all your upset is doing is making you miserable, unhealthy and has no productive result i.e. it didn't change anything.

YOU HAVE ESSENTIALLY ALLOWED YOUR EGO/MIND TO RUIN YOUR DAY AND THERE IS NO PRODUCTIVE RESULT. The payoff is drama that your ego/mind needs to exist and all this is at your great expense in health and attitude.

Lets start over and do it differently this time. When your ego/mind says inside your head “I hate this or I can't stand this” you respond [inside your head] with “IT DOESN'T MATTER” and you keep repeating that in your head until either the event is gone or your ego/mind shuts up and stops trying to trick you into resistance which creates very unhealthy drama. It may take you a while to get this technique to work but eventually it will only take a few “ I don't want to's” to stop your ego/mind from triggering resistance and drama.

LIFE JUST GOT A LOT EASIER, YOU WILL SMILE A LOT MORE, YOUR HEALTH WILL IMPROVE AND MANY AREAS OF YOUR LIFE WILL IMPROVE.

If you think resistance is your birthright: that means the ego has tricked you into identifying with resistance that means you are securely locked into it's ego prison of stress and unhappiness. Resistance is ego and has no positive result or payoff.

Equally important is the fact that when you are NOT UPSET you will readily see a solution or just chuckle at what your ego/mind was trying to get you upset about. If you avoid resistance/drama you will notice the obvious solution which is to offer to help her put her items on the check stand, put a separator down, and remind her to move up. Sure somethings are easier then others to let go of. As you practice this technique you will get stronger and your ego/mind will get weaker or less successful at tricking you into an upset. An upset is rarely productive, usually causes ill will, and is often very unhealthy, makes you unhappy and creates a lot of stress-that can make you sick.

This is the beginning of a positive approach to living your life. It is a minute by minute choice to avoid drama whenever possible. To approach life from a solution perspective rather then a problem perspective. The problem/drama perspective is the ego/mind approach to life and the solution approach is to live consciously in the present moment.

If there is something that needs to be changed [often there isn't] you will see the solution much more easily if you are not upset. Upset clouds our vision because often our feelings are from the past being overlaid onto the present moment. These are memories of feelings/emotions from similar events in our past that have bee triggered by our ego to help protect us but actually just distort our experience of what is really going on and then we assume a lot more is going on then is actually going on. When our feelings are distorted by memories of emotions from the past we often make incorrect decisions that we later regret. All this is because we are upset and not seeing clearly.

It doesn't matter is a way of staying in the present so we can consciously make our best choices about what to do, if anything, next. If we are in upset, in drama we usually make bad choices that we often regret.

LAW OF ATTRACTION*

What you focus your mind on you attract more of no matter what it is.

So if you are in drama a lot, you then attract more drama...

WHATS GOING ON HERE?*

This is the beginning of living consciously.

WHAT IS THE EGO?*

The 'voice' or thoughts in your head come from the ego. You, the real you is the one listening to the thoughts. You almost never talk 'out loud' to you inside your head, thats all the ego. We all have an ego mind but we are not our ego mind. But having an ego is not the problem, the problem is that we are identified with it so it becomes invisible and we give it our power because we assume it is who we are. Because we 'hear' it inside our head. This is the false assumption that causes most of our problems.

WHY DO WE DO THIS?*

Making someone else wrong makes you right and temporarily makes you feel like you are valuable and have some self-worth. Generally all negative thoughts, drama, upsets come from the ego. The ego is suggesting all these drama, upset and resistance opportunities and since we are identified with it we accept them all even when they make us feel bad, sick or cause pain, dis-ease, stress, etc.

* See www.ThinkPerfect.com and PRACTICAL ENLIGHTENMENT for more information on these subjects and more.

The paradigm of consciousness, spirituality and transformation

ThinkPerfect.Com BLOG by Ross Bannister Todd

To ThinkPerfect is to see that you have thoughts but you are not your thoughts.
To notice that you have a thinking mind and your are not your thinking mind.
The problem is not that we have an ego/thinking mind, the problem is that we are identified with it. This is the root misconception that creates almost all other misconceptions or problems.

Meditation is first the practice of dis-engaging from your ego-thinking-chatter-mind. Since you can't turn your mind off, daily practice of disengaging from your thoughts helps you recognize when your ego chatter mind is active in your daily life, then you can disengage from it or stop thinking or ignore it so you can be present in the moment with a quiet mind.

EGO IS LIKE AN ORGANIC MACHINE which can only record and play back but CONSCIOUSNESS IS ALL KNOWING SPIRIT

When you are present in the moment you are coming/acting from CONSCIOUSNESS not ego. Consciousness is the the real you that has all the solutions, ideas, imagination and intuition. The ego is none of these. You, the real you, rarely talks out loud to you inside your head. The ego constantly chatters out loud to you inside your head. Seeing the ego as something you have and NOT who you are puts you on the path to enlightenment, it is the first step.

Freedom from being identified with your ego mind is the ultimate freedom. Living in the moment is always alive, fresh, beautiful and satisfying in and of itself. Inner peace [quiet mind] is the primary goal because then you are in the present moment where all possibilities exist. From the present moment anything is possible.

There is a lot more of this in the PRACTICAL ENLIGHTENMENT CD/ONLINE COURSE including SEXUAL ENLIGHTENMENT.

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