THE ROAD TO INNER PEACE STARTS WITH “THIS DOESN'T MATTER” by Ross Bannister Todd

LEARNING TO AVOID creating an UPSET is the road to inner peace, better health, a ready smile, more friends, and a happier life.

First example: You are sitting at a stop light that has turned green and the person ahead of you is on their cell phone and hasn't noticed. You get mad, honk, yell, or speed around them. All this negative emotions you just created may stay with you the rest of the day. Was it worth it? Did it accomplish anything productive? But if you had said 'it doesn't matter' a few times you can skip the drama, upset, stress and enjoy the rest of your day.

Second example: lets say you are in a checkout line at the market and the person ahead of you is holding up the line because she is putting her goods on the check stand very slowly, doesn't put a separator down and doesn't move up so you can have access to the check stand. The minute YOU DESIDE you don't want that to be going on you trigger ego resistance. The longer you stand there resisting what is going on in the present moment the more upset you are going to get.

By now you have lost your smile, your blood pressure is up, and anger is approaching rapidly. If you could step outside of yourself and notice that you are uncomfortable, unhappy, ill at ease, and not enjoying this moment of your life and you are probably blaming all your upset/drama on the other person/event. But you and your ego caused the upset not her. When you decided to agree with your ego and resist you triggered the upset/drama. Please notice also that all your upset is doing is making you miserable, unhealthy and has no productive result i.e. it didn't change anything.

YOU HAVE ESSENTIALLY ALLOWED YOUR EGO/MIND TO RUIN YOUR DAY AND THERE IS NO PRODUCTIVE RESULT. The payoff is drama that your ego/mind needs to exist and all this is at your great expense in health and attitude.

Lets start over and do it differently this time. When your ego/mind says inside your head “I hate this or I can't stand this” you respond [inside your head] with “IT DOESN'T MATTER” and you keep repeating that in your head until either the event is gone or your ego/mind shuts up and stops trying to trick you into resistance which creates very unhealthy drama. It may take you a while to get this technique to work but eventually it will only take a few “ I don't want to's” to stop your ego/mind from triggering resistance and drama.

LIFE JUST GOT A LOT EASIER, YOU WILL SMILE A LOT MORE, YOUR HEALTH WILL IMPROVE AND MANY AREAS OF YOUR LIFE WILL IMPROVE.

If you think resistance is your birthright: that means the ego has tricked you into identifying with resistance that means you are securely locked into it's ego prison of stress and unhappiness. Resistance is ego and has no positive result or payoff.

Equally important is the fact that when you are NOT UPSET you will readily see a solution or just chuckle at what your ego/mind was trying to get you upset about. If you avoid resistance/drama you will notice the obvious solution which is to offer to help her put her items on the check stand, put a separator down, and remind her to move up. Sure somethings are easier then others to let go of. As you practice this technique you will get stronger and your ego/mind will get weaker or less successful at tricking you into an upset. An upset is rarely productive, usually causes ill will, and is often very unhealthy, makes you unhappy and creates a lot of stress-that can make you sick.

This is the beginning of a positive approach to living your life. It is a minute by minute choice to avoid drama whenever possible. To approach life from a solution perspective rather then a problem perspective. The problem/drama perspective is the ego/mind approach to life and the solution approach is to live consciously in the present moment.

If there is something that needs to be changed [often there isn't] you will see the solution much more easily if you are not upset. Upset clouds our vision because often our feelings are from the past being overlaid onto the present moment. These are memories of feelings/emotions from similar events in our past that have bee triggered by our ego to help protect us but actually just distort our experience of what is really going on and then we assume a lot more is going on then is actually going on. When our feelings are distorted by memories of emotions from the past we often make incorrect decisions that we later regret. All this is because we are upset and not seeing clearly.

It doesn't matter is a way of staying in the present so we can consciously make our best choices about what to do, if anything, next. If we are in upset, in drama we usually make bad choices that we often regret.

LAW OF ATTRACTION*

What you focus your mind on you attract more of no matter what it is.

So if you are in drama a lot, you then attract more drama...

WHATS GOING ON HERE?*

This is the beginning of living consciously.

WHAT IS THE EGO?*

The 'voice' or thoughts in your head come from the ego. You, the real you is the one listening to the thoughts. You almost never talk 'out loud' to you inside your head, thats all the ego. We all have an ego mind but we are not our ego mind. But having an ego is not the problem, the problem is that we are identified with it so it becomes invisible and we give it our power because we assume it is who we are. Because we 'hear' it inside our head. This is the false assumption that causes most of our problems.

WHY DO WE DO THIS?*

Making someone else wrong makes you right and temporarily makes you feel like you are valuable and have some self-worth. Generally all negative thoughts, drama, upsets come from the ego. The ego is suggesting all these drama, upset and resistance opportunities and since we are identified with it we accept them all even when they make us feel bad, sick or cause pain, dis-ease, stress, etc.

* See www.ThinkPerfect.com and PRACTICAL ENLIGHTENMENT for more information on these subjects and more.

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ILLUSIONS THAT WE LIVE IN THAT ARE CREATED BY THE EGO

I invite you to consider that stress and/or:

feelings of judging/being judged, bad, emotional pain, guilt, revenge, resistance, exhausted, UNWORTHY, ASHAMED, doubt, FRUSTRATION, heaviness, CANT GO ON, etc.
CAN ALL BE PART OF AN ILLUSION CREATED BY THE EGO

The ego does this is by triggering memories from your past that include the feelings, emotions, sensations, from these past events, traumas, problems, difficult or dangerous, situations, etc.

Most of us have not taught us to realize that memories of feelings and emotions from the past feel almost as real as currently being created feelings.

These memories of feelings often confuse us and or trick us into assuming they are real, valid, current, true. In other words our feelings may be coming from memories not our interaction with the people or things in our current reality that we are in and that we are usually blaming/attributing for how we feel.

But since we are generally unaware of this we usually blame or attribute our feelings on: age, people, the person/event in front of us, food, drinks, sleep, boss, job, mate, kids, moon, money, etc.

What you may not realize is the ego will sacrifice your happiness, well being, etc to protect you and it. This is the pretense it is using when it triggers all those feelings from the past. The purpose of the illusion created by these memories of feelings is they are supposed to protect you by being a warning that a similar situation has happened in your past making you doubt yourself or your actions or they make you feel so bad that you have to stop what you are doing, or decide not to do what you are thinking about doing.

For example: as a child on the way to the ice cream store you fall off your bicycle, get briefly knocked unconscious and hurt your knee. Now decades later your mate/kids ask you to go to the ice cream store and you immediately get a headache and your knee hurts. This is the ego trying to warn you of a potentially dangerous situation by triggering the memories from the original event.

If you blame/attribute this to something else ie loss of sleep, etc. you miss the message the ego is trying to send you. But you will also probably not go to the ice cream store. All these painful memories of feelings could ruin your night/day.

So the ego thinks it saved you (both) once again. but it is all a hoax. THERE IS NO REAL DANGER. THE EGO DOESN'T REALIZE THAT WHAT WAS DANGEROUS IN YOUR CHILDHOOD IS NO LONGER DANGEROUS AS AN ADULT. When it compares the present with the past to find dangerous situations it is also about as accurate as a computer search before Google.

This means that how you feel is often a result of feelings from your past. Yet you will most likely blame or attribute them to age, what you ate or drank, the gym, your boss, mate, kids, and/or not enough: sleep, money, sex, time, etc.

When you feel bad or If you recognize what is going on you can say no, no, no to the ego to reduce or stop the memories. Which will often have a dramatic effect on how you feel, freeing you of the oppressive emotions.

To help you recognize when the ego is active in your life and how it may be blocking or obstructing it you can consult Sage (spiritual guide) using the methods described in THE COSMIC I CHING or HEALING YOURSELF THE COSMIC WAY (books) both by Anthony/Moog. Or you may be able to find a coach that is being assisted by the Sage and the Cosmic Helpers to guide you through this process. The author of this article is such a coach.

I was assisted, greatly, to write this article by the Sage and the Helpers.

I have been working with the Cosmic I Ching, the Sage and the Helpers for some time. Using these methods I discovered many traumatic childhood events that created feelings and emotions that were actively blocking the full expression of who I am. In fact many of the feelings that I attributed to age, food, sex, etc were in fact all memories of feelings triggered by ego to protect me in some way. These feelings often immobilized me or stopped me from finding a mate, making money, being successful, or just simply enjoying the sex of my choice, many of which blocked the full self expression of my potential.

IN OTHER WORDS BLOCKED MY ABILITY TO FULLY ENJOY MY LIFE.

I have been doing coaching and seminars for 25 years but the working with the Sage, the Helpers and The COSMIC I CHING is the most powerful, through and life changing that I have ever come across. I can not put into words what a freeing change this work has had on my life. It has also led me to more deeply understand how the collective ego attempts to control, manipulate and run our lives. In other words the effect of the ego on our lives is far more pervasive then I ever suspected and I have been working with these concepts for 25 years. I had no idea that it was able to literally immobilize me or make me feel so bad I had to go to bed or make me eat in an attempt to alleviate fear that the ego caused by triggering memories from my past. The ego also undermined my motivation so I didn't even go after what I wanted. I can do and enjoy things now that were blocked for most of my life. I am calling it a miracle.