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IF SEX IS NO FUN...link LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST
The way we are raised/trained does not usually give us a full understanding of what living life to the fullest is all about. We usually assume that it means getting people, places, and/or things to make us happy, satisfied, or feel loved. This often works for a while but usually doesnt last.
It doesn't last because we are pretending that something outside of us can change how we feel inside of us. We assume THE OUTER CONTROLS THE INNER the truth is THE INNER CREATES THE OUTER. I realize that may not make sense yet, but keep reading.
HOW YOU FEEL IS NOT controlled by people, places and things but our ego helps us pretend it is. That new phone isnt making you feel wonderful, its you saying to yourself "this is wonderful" vs when you are at work or school you are saying to yourself "I hate this". What you are saying/thinking dramatically effects how you feel then with the help of your ego you blame or attribute your discomfort on something outside of you. What you are not noticing is you [or your ego] decided you don't like what is going on so you resist it and decide: " I don't want to be here". These decisions are causing your discomfort or pain but you don't see that because you are blaming it on something outside of you.
We often blame/attribute how we feel on something outside of us even if the person or situation is not in front of us anymore we still blame it/them. How can they make you feel bad if they are not there? The answer is simple: its all coming from your memories/mind and the ego probablytriggered it. But YOU ARE STILL PRETENDING ITS REAL BUT ITS ALL AN ILLUSION CREATED BY YOUR EGO TO KEEP YOU IN AN UPSET SO IT CAN CONTROL YOU AND STEAL YOUR ENERGY.
Discovering you have an ego is a little like being told you have a tumour, you can't see it so you have no proof it is really there. So your NEXT STEP is to discover your ego. It is very clever at making itself almost invisible. You can't see how it is controlling your life untill you first acknowledge you have an ego. THE EGO IS WHAT IS KEEPING YOU FROM ENJOYING THE FULLNESS OF LIFE.
It has tricked you into beliving your (ego) thoughts/ voice in your head are you, so it seems invisible. In other words you are identified with your ego and believe it is you so you don't see it. Nor do you see that it is not the real you. THE REAL YOU IS THE ONE LISTENING TO THE EGO CHATTER AWAY INSIDE YOUR HEAD. Since the ego is inside our head we ASSUME it is us so we honor it, obey it and assume it protects us. since everyone else has this going on too it is strange that NOBODY IS TALKING ABOUT THE EGO. The ego will gladly sacrifice your happiness, health, job, money, relationship, even make you sick to survive and stay in control of your life.
YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS WILL FACILITATE YOU SEEING THE EGO IS NOT YOU BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE EFFORT, WILL IT.
The ego is very much like a computer VIRUS inside you. It needs to steal your energy to survive. To do this it needs to get you upset so it creates drama by creating illusions and triggering difficult, painful memories from your past. It gets away with this because most humans do not question where what they are feeling is coming from, i.e. the present or the past. If they can feel it they ASSUME it is real. Memories of feelings feel almost as real as currently being created feelings. This gives the ego free reign to trick us into believing traumas from our past are going on in the present again. This creates a false reality that is only going on inside you but we usually assume everyone else feels it too. We then base decisions and take action based on this false reality, frequently this causes irreparable damage to our relationships and our lives. In other words we blame someone for our pain and may try to get even but they are innocent, our pain is coming from a memory triggered by out ego. Often then they get angry and fight back because their ego triggers memories of feelings inside them and they step into their false reality and everything goes downhill from there. Then we spend weeks...years trying to figure out what happened but it never makes any sense, it can't because it was all an ego illusion. I will let you in a a little secret: the ego is insane. Yes, that is the same ego that is running and most likely ruining your life.
Come spend 90 minutes with me and I will show you your ego [and how your mind works] and how to differentiate you/the real you from the ego. This will give you the key to your ego prison. It can change your life or you can walk out the door, go back to your life and forget it all with your ego's help very quickly. The session is a conversation, I will not confront you nor ask you to share your deepest secrets but it is an interactive session not just a lecture so you will be able to test many of the things I say right there. You will be able to feel the truth in what I am showing you.
Remember fear does not come from outside of you, it is mostly triggered by your ego when IT THINKS/DECIDES something is dangerous and it is VERY OFTEN WRONG. It can also trigger fear whenever it wants to control you or stop you from doing something like give a speech, sex, meet someone new, or learn about the ego or have a session with me. The hardest part of a session is getting there, the rest is easy.
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HAPPINESS SHOWS UP AFTER YOU TRANSCEND YOUR MIND/THOUGHTS.
what is the Quality of your life?
Do you have everything but you still are not happy, not satisfied, no smile inside
The outer does not control /effect the inner. THE INNER CREATES
(CONTROLS) THE OUTER . And you may be pretending that the outer
(physical reality)
controls you or how you feel because that is what our society has taught us to do.
The LAW ATTRACTION
is a spiritual principle and there are more principles which enable you
to transcend your mind/ego/limits/beliefs and live from an enlightened
perspective.
This is
not counseling or even change. You are not broken and do not need to be
fixed. This is the TRANSFORMATION of your relationships with your mind,
body, past, job mate, sex, health, and wealth.
Our
society has not taught us the basic/primary spiritual principles
[nothing to do with organized religion] that give us the tools to create
the space for happiness/ satisfaction to show up into.
Available on CD-ROM or one one one in Palm Springs or telephone or Internet video conference
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"The inner creates the outer" Hermes (what you think/intend creates your life)
WHAT'S THE GOAL?
What we don't see is LIVING FULLY IN THE PRESENT is the goal.
We don't usually see that the thoughts or chatter we have inside our head keep us from putting our full attention on the present moment.
Thoughts or mind chatter are mostly about the past, but can also be fear or resistance (usually disguised as "the I don't want too's"), judging, complaining, self pity, LACK, OR LIMITATION and thoughts often look like a conversation going on inside your head.
We don't see that our thoughts/mind is like an overlay on to the present moment. We are having an experience of being in the present moment but thinking blocks that experience. Mental activity blocks our experience of the present moment...now.
To say it another way: we are focusing our attention on our mind/thinking rather then the peaceful, very alive and enjoyable experience of the present moment. What we are in our mind trying to figure how to get is often available in the present moment. You can't think joy, love or inner peace but you can experience it in the present moment. You can't get joy, love or satisfaction by thinking.
WE ALSO BELIEVE THAT JOY, LOVE, AND SATISFACTION COME FROM PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS BUT THIS IS SIMPLY NOT TRUE.
Joy, love and satisfaction can only be experienced when you are fully in the present moment, accepting/choosing everything and you are ok "as is right now" . But you can't be in the present moment if you are thinking, having a conversation in your head.
The problem is not what you are thinking, it is that you are thinking.
The quality of your life is determined by how quiet your mind is. If you are constantly busy in your mind then you probably have very little joy, love or satisfaction in your life.
HAPPINESS SHOWS UP AFTER YOU TRANSCEND YOUR MIND/THOUGHTS.
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YOUR TRUE NATURE IS YOUR FEELING CONSCIOUSNESS THAT IS INSIDE YOU
Be careful not to confuse your TRUE feelings, with emotions from your past that have been triggered by ego to CONFUSE YOU. The ego tries to subvert and repress the True Feeling Consciousness Support System you were born with.
The
ego creates ILLUSIONS IN YOUR MIND and then makes them feel real by
triggering memories of emotions and feelings from your past, WHICH
CREATE A FALSE REALITY. We assume this reality is true because we can
feel it, WE THEN BASE OUR DECISIONS AND ACTIONS ON THIS FALSE INFORMATION.
LIVING IN A
FALSE REALITY can never be satisfying or fulfilling, nor is LOVE
available to us in the false or ego reality. We also feel ALONE
BECAUSE WE ARE CUT OFF FROM OUR INNER OR TRUE SELF.
This is
like when your computer is not connected to the Internet and you can
only access what is in memory or what is stored on the hard drive which is primarily the past.
The Feeling Consciousness Support System is part of who we are, part of our consciousness and if used to direct our life will give us the information we need to live a healthy, productive, successful, joyful and happy life.
Living authentically in the present moment is living life to its fullest. In other words it feels so great living in the present moment and not in/ from your ego mind in the past that you don't need anything to make you happy, content, peaceful, satisfied, etc. You cannot GET love, it has to come from inside you. and as you give it, share it, it increases/expands.
Give me a call [415 867 8633 11am to 11 pm only please] or email and we can discuss how best to help you rediscover your true self AND TO STOP LIVING LIFE OUT OF YOUR MENTAL EGO PRISON.
email: tantrasexcoach@gmail.com
25 years of coaching experience
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