TOOLS TO MANAGE YOUR EGO
YOU CAN USE TO GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD/EGO/MIND AND BACK INTO THE PRESENT MOMENT
"LIFE DOES NOT TAKE PLACE INSIDE YOUR HEAD BUT MOST OF US SEEM TO PRETEND IT DOES"
MANTRAS/SAYINGS TO HELP YOU GET OUT OF YOUR EGO:
"it doesn't matter right now""____ (he, she, it) can't make me feel this way""forgive yourself/them" Without compassion for you, you will never get out from under your ego" TRUTHS/REMINDERS/
The ego is very much like a computer virus that tries to reprogram your healthy built-in support systems.
The ego does not want you to be confident or have self-worth or self-esteem because then it will not be in control of you because you will have the will power to ignore or override its judgments or accusations.
Once it tricks you to judge, guilt, shame, etc yourself it can then it can steal your chi/energy and that gives it the power to control you and run/ruin your life.
No self-worth means no willpower. Which means you do not have the will power, nor the energy to take action or even decide to take action.
The ego and our society has convinced/taught us that we need to judge ourselves to make us a better person. But this is a false truth because judging destroys our self-worth and puts the ego back in control IT NEVER HELPS/GUIDES US TO BE A BETTER PERSON.
Judging yourself or others puts you in your ego/head and is never productive. It is actually self-sabotage.
JUDGING DRAINS THE
SWEETNESS FROM LIFE
When life has no fun, joy, or sweetness that means the ego is in control of your life. BEING YELLED AT: When someone is angry and or yelling at you it means they are "in" their ego chatter/mind; experiencing memories of feelings from the past that have been triggered by you, a phone call, a letter, a smell, etc. So they are reacting to those memories of feelings from the past they can feel in their body and probably are going to blame the person in front of them for their discomfort/pain. But it is not being caused by the person in front of them at most they triggered the memories of feelings from the past. So if you are the person in front of them 'DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY' and don't let your ego get upset to match their upset. Just say "it doesn't matter" and let it go. Sometimes I have to repeat in my mind/head: "I forgive them" over and over to keep my ego from getting triggered. Probably also a good idea to keep a neutral look on your face not a smile so they wont know you are not angry or upset.
DRAMA: The ego needs drama to survive, lots of drama means their ego is
in control of their life most likely.
LAW SUITS: This is when you are having an argument in your head with someone who is not around or that you are not talking too. Neither one of the 'voices' are you or them, they are both you ego mocking them up and you are the one listening to it all pretending it is really going on and suffering accordingly. But it is all a hoax, an ILLUSION created by the ego to create drama/upset in your life, there is no productive result. And often the person your ego is mocking up can feel the negative energy or the next time you see this person you get triggered and actually start yelling at them. All because you believed your ego's illusion, it tricked you again and the result is more drama which it needs to survive at your expense. The ego's plan is to survive even if that means ruining your life, your happiness or your health, your relationships, etc. the ego is NOT your friend but it tell you it is all the time.